I’ve thought a lot about the fresh opportunity that this new calendar holds – 12 months of dates yet to be filled or lived – but it’s taken me a bit to come up with a way to approach it in a fresh, committed way.
I decided to set intentions for how I want to live my year, and even though January is almost over, I’ve already been putting them into practice all month, I just didn’t put pen to paper until now.
Since BeautyJudy’s tagline is “the intersection of career, motherhood and makeup addiction,” I decided to share my intentions in four categories:
I’m going to share one area where I’m working to make changes in each of these categories.
Drink more water.
It’s that simple. Water fits into “beauty” because it’s good for your skin. It’s good for your body. It’s good for your weight loss.
Last summer I plateaued in my weight loss after having Josie in March. In recent months I’ve begun to lose again, and I’ve gone down a size. I mean…Let’s not talk about my week last week – there were a lot of cookies consumed, and not a lot of water drank. So, I’m already falling down on my goals. But my true commitment to myself is to drink half my body weight in water each day.
It’s tough, because it makes me pee a ton. It’s tough because that’s a lot of water to drink so I constantly have to have a full water bottle on hand. But you know what’s even tougher? Chapped, dry lips.
After my first week doing this, my dry, chapped lips became normal lips. My lips are always the first telltale sign that I am either hydrated or not hydrated enough.
This intention was actually born from my mommy group on Facebook that I belong to, it’s a group of women who were due in March 2018, like me. We created a spin-off group for getting back to pre-baby fitness and health, and someone posted a water challenge. I’ve decided I need to make that my lifestyle.
Speaking of mommy. Motherhood is hard. It’s harder than I thought it would be. And there are times when I struggle being a mom, wife, and career-focused woman.
At the same time, being a mother is one of the most joyous things I’ve ever experienced. Finding happiness through the happiness of my children, snuggling with them…there are just some things that I am thankful for everyday when it comes to being “Mom.”
There’s got to be a balance, though, and I constantly work at that because in order to be the best for them, I have to be the best for me, too.
So what I’ve decided to do, in an effort to be my best for them, is to reduce screen time when I’m with my kids. That means:
- Putting aside the work and personal smartphones during dinner
- Putting them aside during our bedtime routine
- Being conscious of how much I pick it up and look at it when I’m with them.
I’ve already started. And it’s impacted how much I’ve been there for my blog and my blog social media. My LinkedIn. My Facebook. But it doesn’t matter. What matters are the two little girls that need, and deserve, my full attention when I’m with them.
I used to put my phones next to me at dinner and check my work phone at the slightest notification; I’ve learned that it’s not necessary, unless there’s a true work emergency. I can make that time sacred, and I can put the phone down. It’s what, 20-30 minutes?
I can improve. I can definitely improve. But that’s why I have made it a promise, a commitment, and an intention.
Career is my toughest, and I struggled to find intention. I had such a big career change last year that I thought maybe I need to ease up on myself for a while.
But no. That would be foolish.
So in 2019, I wanted to expand myself beyond the everyday job, and give my time for a greater good, in an effort to learn lessons I’m not even sure I know yet.
I joined the board of our women’s employee resource group, and I’ll be working to connect women and allies together through meaningful events. I’m networking with other women across my company and I’m learning a lot already. It will be a lesson in time management, for sure, but I’m excited for how doing this will grow me as a professional and as a woman.
But more importantly, I’m at a point in my career when I have experience and insight, and I really enjoy being a mentor. So I’m excited to do things for other women that can help THEM grow their careers, help THEM network and lift THEM up. I believe we should empower each other in the workplace, as women. There’s no need to step over each other to get ahead.
This year, I’ve committed myself to reading 12 books in 12 months. I read ravenously as a child, teen and young adult. In my 30s, my commitment to reading waned as I took on more high-pressure work, got married, started a family; my time to read was also my time to catch up on this or that; trying to read a page or two at bedtime as I fell asleep meant it took me up to three or four years to finish one book. No lie, that’s how long it took me to finish Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg.
I’ve read two books so far this year; Girl, Wash Your Face, By Rachel Hollis and Whose Boat is This Boat? by Stephen Colbert which is basically the quickest read I’ve ever had (took me a minute, maybe? But Goodreads counts it, lol!) I’m currently reading my third book, All the President’s Men by Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein. It’s been on my shelf forever and it’s as good as I always suspected, and I think about all the years I’ve had these unread books on my shelf that I haven’t read and I feel I have so much to catch up on. Don’t ask me about the Rachel Hollis book; I finished it, then I threw it out. I’m not a fan.
In order to make reading happen, I had to make room in my life – that means I’m not watching as much television. I still watch, but I’m going to bed earlier and reading more. I’m sitting and reading while my baby eats in my arms.
They say if you want to do something, you will find time for it. Next mission: Make time for working out.
So there you go. My 2019 intentions in a nutshell. What have you committed to doing? Do any of your commitments mirror mine?