Mar 01 2017

March 40 Before 40 Update

February was a tough month. I was not focused on this project at all!

In fact, I lost a little steam on it. February was a bit of a whirlwind, and for about half of it, I didn’t have time to accomplish day to day things – like eat lunch. So when it comes to my list – things like baking a sour cream apple pie, or taking my daughter to the aquarium – they didn’t happen. I’m hoping March will be a better month for some of this stuff.

But I did accomplish a couple things. Check them out!

Stop saving samples for travel and special occasions

empties samples

In my empties post Monday, I included a section on all the samples I tried. I decided that one of my 40 before 40 items would be to try more of the samples that I have, to live a little! I don’t have to hold onto these samples in the event I travel. I haven’t even been traveling that much in the last couple years, and I’d rather experiment with new product than let it go to waste because I am holding onto it!

Plus, it eliminates some of the clutter in parts of my beauty storage. I’m having fun working through these tiny foil packages and mini perfume bottles.

Not the most exciting bucket list item, but certainly one that encourages me to live a little more in the moment than to put things aside for a practical time.

A personal one

40 by 40

I have to confess. One of the items on my 40 before 40 list is something I can’t really control. And I don’t know why I put it down on paper. Or why I haven’t taken it off, for that matter.

I would like to be pregnant with my second child before I’m 40.

I’ve always been pretty transparent on BeautyJudy about struggles in life, including my first pregnancy, which ended in miscarriage.

Well, after six months/seven cycles, we have been unsuccessful so far in getting pregnant.

Doesn’t sound long, right?

Well, because I’m almost 40 (and this is true for women if you’re over 35 according to my doctor), my OBGYN recommended I see a fertility specialist. Last month, I made that appointment for March. By the time I see the specialist we will have tried for seven months. It feels a little surreal to do this, since in reality, I got pregnant very quickly the first time, and then six months after my miscarriage I got pregnant with my daughter.

It may very well may be true, what encouraging friends and family have to say – “Stop trying/stop thinking about it/destress, it’ll happen!” But we owe it to ourselves to follow our doctor’s orders and rule out anything like secondary infertility.

So I will remove this item from my list, because I DO know better – it isn’t something you can “check off” a list, it’s something a lot less predictable.

Unexpected realizations

As I wrote this post, I was struck by something.

Each item has a lesson that I wasn’t even shooting for.

Like above, my list item about samples and using them – that one turns out to be a lesson in living in the moment and not saving anything for something else that doesn’t have an arrival date!!

Last month, my lesson was about taking in the joy and happiness I feel when I watch my daughter having a good time, learning and playing. Taking a moment to write about my experiences is causing me to reflect and value what I’m doing.

This is exactly why I wanted to do a project like this. Not because I’m dreading 40 – I’m not. But because I want to grow and never NOT be self-aware, before and after I’m 40.

See you next month…

  • polarbelle

    yes, the lessons!! this post really speaks to me. I have that annoying pile of samples that I never use…like special clothes, always waiting for the perfect time. Nothing wrong with today, right? I’m going to use or pass them on

    • BeautyJudy

      Clothes – I hear you on that too!!!

  • Stephanie Louise Telford

    I reeeeally want to try more Kryolan!

    • BeautyJudy

      Haha at first I was like, huh?! Then I realized Here’s a pic of a Kryolan sample haha


    I’ve saved up my samples for travel and there’s quite a huge pile of them! I do take them along on mini-breaks to Gramps’s; even so, there’s too much. I’m going to start using them up anyway. Good luck with all your goals!

    • BeautyJudy

      i have so so many, I definitely will hold onto a couple of my perfume samples but I need to use them!

  • Miranda |

    I too end up hoarding samples and travel sizes ACTUALLY for travel… and then when I end up traveling I just decant whatever I’m using -______- lol

    • BeautyJudy

      Hahaha I totally do this too!!!

  • FabZilla_Kath

    I like reading some personal stuff from you! Keep it coming…and coming from a 42-yr old woman, age is just a number for sure! HUgs

    • BeautyJudy

      Thank you for your support! And I’m planning to make 40 as fab as 30!

  • BeautyJudy

    I’m a bit excited about 40! Age really is just a number, despite changes I see in my skin as I age, I still feel like that 16-year-old girl I used to be 🙂

  • marciaf

    40’s not so bad. You just have to remember that you are only 1 day older than the day you were 39. Keep trying though so you’ll have some feelings of accomplishment.

    • BeautyJudy

      I look forward to the milestone, to be honest. I’ve grown comfortable with it and it’s just a number. I’m not going to suddenly wake up in May 12 and chuck all my colorful makeup or cat leggings…hahaha!!! 😉

  • PrimeBeauty

    Great post, Judy crossing my fingers for you!

    • BeautyJudy

      Thank you!

  • Phyrra Nyx

    I’ll be wishing you the best.

    • BeautyJudy